Consent does not just apply to sex. It goes for anything. Whether that is hugs, or a pat on the shoulder, or even a handshake.
People also do not need to disclose their trauma as validation for why they do not want to be touched. People are allowed to say “no” to any form of contact, whether they have trauma or not.
Quit taking “please don’t touch me” as a personal attack on you.
Respect people’s bodies. Respect their boundaries. Please.
I’m a first-time mom, just figuring out this whole parenting thing one dirty diaper at a time. I’m only four months in, but I’ve learned a lot about being a mother. One of the most important things I’ve learned how to do is to learn how to be kind to yourself.
Your body is different after having a baby. I mean, you just carried a baby for nine months and then birthed it! It would be crazy if things didn’t change. There are the physical changes, your belly, everything down south, your skin, your hair. One of the weirdest feelings after giving birth was how my belly felt. Feeling my stomach, I felt so empty. For 40 weeks I always had someone with me no matter where I was. To go from having a baby inside my womb to having a baby in my arms was amazing but terrifying at the same time. And then there are the emotional changes. All of the hormones, all of the feelings that come along with having to take care of a human being all the sudden on top of keeping your relationship alive. Your body has just gone through so much, but now you’re expected to take this tiny human and tend to all of their needs. You’re sleep deprived, sore, but yet the happiest you’ve ever been. So many different emotions all at once, it can become confusing, but it’s all normal and all part of becoming a mother. You suddenly forget about all of the thousands of pages you’ve read about taking care of a baby and preparing yourself for motherhood. I thought I was ready and in a way, I totally was. But I also had moments where it all came falling down around me, and I would panic about how I was going to get through the night.
Being kind to yourself is hard. For me, it was hard letting everything go for a little while. It was hard letting my house become a mess and letting the dishes pile up. I felt like I needed to do it all. I’m not the type of person that can live in chaos. I need organization, cleanliness, I need to have everything put together. And the fact that I was definitely not put together the first few weeks after having Adeline stressed me out a lot. I had to tell myself that it was okay. I had to tell myself to be nice, this too shall pass. Be nice to yourself. Be kind to yourself. You are taking care of a human being! You are doing so much, and you are amazing at it. It’s okay to not be okay and to have to ask for help. That’s just part of life!
Mothers are warriors. Whenever you feel like everything is collapsing around you, whenever you feel like it’s all too much, take a step back.Breathe. And tell yourself to be kind. You are doing the best you can, and that’s all that matters.
I apologize if i ever was a toxic person in your life, i’m maturing more everyday, correcting my wrongs and slowly but surely becoming a better version of me.
Me : One of the good things about la casa de papel is that they didn’t drag the series unnecessarily just because it got popular, it ended exactly where it needed to end
Me : Quiero proponerte un negocio: un atraco… un atraco singular. Estoy buscando a gente que no tiene mucho que perder. Como te suenan 2.400 millones de euro?
